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My Coaching Philosophy

The Standards of Presence

How I Create a Safe, Sacred Space For Coaching and Life

Relationship Issues | Personal Coach | Relationship Help | Personal Coaching | Professional Life CoachThese are the coaching guidelines I follow with my clients...

1. Confidentiality in Coaching
 
What I see and hear that is personal or specific to another within the group will stay here.

When sharing the essence of someone else's story, without the names and specific details, I agree to share it in an honoring manner that celebrates the original person's magnificence.

2. Adopt a stand for innocence
 
Have a beginner's mind.

Release evaluating or comparing what I am learning. Allow my self to try on and wear the information for a while, as it stands.
 
3. Positive focus
 
Focus on the 98% (or more) that is working. What I focus on expands.

Fill my tank with the power of positivity.

What you perceive in others you are strengthening in yourself.

What I perceive in others I strengthen in myself.
 
4. Connect at a heart level
 
Open my heart to the essence of what is being conveyed.

Be willing to get out of my mind!

Release the need to evaluate and judge, at least for now, in the moment.

5. When I am sharing
 
Focus on the part(s) that are magnificent - particularly in myself and particularly when I'm learning or exploring new areas.

Speak in I statements - release telling others what you should do, act, feel, believe, etc., etc., I am encouraged to share my experience and claim it as my experience.

6. When I am listening to another share

Be 100% engaged and focus my positive attention on the presenter or the person sharing.

Refrain from side talk, cross talk, or interrupting when someone is sharing.

Refrain from making repetitive comments or drawing attention to myself.

Re-spect - Look again with new eyes.

Release anticipating or knowing what that person is going to share. It's an opportunity to be fascinated by another.

Look for the gifts being shared - their vulnerability, insights, brilliance, etc.

Refrain from formulating what I want to say or add to what is being shared.

Allow the person sharing to indicate they are complete.

7. When giving acknowledgment or positive support

Be authentic while giving only positive feedback.

Keep it simple and speak to the essence of what I experienced.

Maintain eye contact with the person to whom I am giving support.

Allow this session to stand on its own.

Release comparing this session to past sessions.

Notice when I want to give unsolicited advice, criticism, counseling or consulting. Then release it without sharing it!

8. When receiving acknowledgment or positive support

Be open to receive the acknowledgment - as the gift it is - and let it sink in.

Maintain eye contact with the person acknowledging me.

Simply respond with Thank you. Refrain from cross talk or comments back to the person acknowledging me.

9. Take responsibility for myself and allow others to do the same

Maintain a safe space for myself. If something feels like a judgment or advice, simply state that and ask that it be reframed as a self-discovery inquiry. (That is, ask them to ask me a question.)

Also, when I have a judgment, I can say "Thank you for sharing" to that voice within me and choose a new thought and focus.

Empower others by allowing others to take care of them selves.

Acceptance

The bottom line and very foundation of these Standards of Presence is acceptance. In other words, be without judgment with regards of how you or anyone else behaves, especially in relationship to these Standards.

If you were to start evaluating or comparing your behavior to these Standards you would only be setting a new set of shoulds for your life.

Acceptance, especially self acceptance, is the most beneficial place to stand to experience this sacred space.

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The Standards of Presence courtesy of Coach For Life © 2013

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