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Having Marriage Trouble?
Learn How to Stop Your Divorce

Marriage Trouble | Stop Your Divorce | Relationship CoachAre you having marriage trouble? Does your marriage appear to be on its last leg? Has your spouse recently given you notice that he or she is contemplating divorce as a serious option? What can you do to stop your divorce?

Marriage Trouble can Happen to Anyone

Marriage trouble affects every marriage at some point. No couple is immune to the ups and downs of marital harmony and discord. It's when a marriage grows stagnant, complacent and perhaps even abusive at some level that dissolution becomes an answer for many. Trying to stop your divorce when it's gotten to this point can be difficult but it's definitely possible.

Here's an example of how marriage trouble begins. Nancy and her husband Mark have had their ups and downs in their six year marriage. The last two years of the marriage have gotten progressively worse. The couple used to argue a lot to the point where they would disagree for the simple purpose of disagreeing. The bickering finally escalated to name-calling and threats. Over the last couple of weeks, the arguments have become more personal. Mark told Nancy that he can't go on like this any longer. As much as he loves her, he is really sick and tired of all the fighting. Nancy agreed with him and told him she's tired of his verbal abuse too. She asked Mark what he wanted to do. He thought for a moment and hit her with something she wasn't expecting to hear, and had been afraid of on occasion herself. Mark told her he thought divorce might be the best thing for their marriage. She was totally blown away by his suggestion. In fact, Mark was shocked he even said it! Now that the "D" word has been put in play, have they passed the point of no return? Thinking it is one thing, but actually saying it is harder to swallow. Nancy worries that permanent damage has been done. Mark wonders if they've entered the point of no return. Both really want to save their marriage. Is it possible to reverse their marriage troubles? Nancy's best friend Tina told Nancy to "stop your divorce."

Here are some tips about how it can be done.

When marriage troubles have reached this point, the proverbial point of no return, is it possible to get back on track again? Can you stop your divorce from happening and turn things around? The answer is absolutely yes!

One of the Causes of Marriage Trouble

Marriage trouble is usually the by-product of repetitive thinking patterns and reactions. Let's face it... humans are creatures of habit. We become habituated to doing and saying the same things over and over without critically thinking about it. Oftentimes, these negative thought patterns hurt others as well as hurting ourselves. It's not surprising that these negative thoughts can lead to the collapse of a marriage. If your marriage has arrived at this point too, now's the time to stop your divorce from happening.

The first step to stop your divorce is to recognize how you've contributed to your marriage trouble. Identify what role you are playing - and then accept that you're an active participant in the problem. I know this is a hard pill to swallow, but if you can accept that you are part of the problem, then you will identify the fact - without question or doubt - that you're a big part of the solution too!

Marriage Trouble and Communication Issues

When examining marriage trouble and its attendant symptoms, did you know that a lack of communication is the number one issue? Moreover, it's ineffective communication that's the hallmark of most marriage trouble. It is estimated on average that married couples spend only 12.5 minutes speaking to each other every day! Is it any wonder marriages fail? Effective communication is the key and first step in learning how to stop your divorce.

Marriage trouble is a symptom of an underlying problem and without a doubt this doesn't happen overnight. Problems in your marriage take time to build. Unfortunately, too many couples are quick to choose divorce as the best and the only solution. When divorce is discussed instead of addressing the issues, it only adds greater stress to the marriage. In essence, it is like pouring gasoline on a fire. This is not good and there's a better solution. It's never too late to stop your divorce. Here's how.

How to Fix Marriage Trouble -
Get Help and Stop Your Divorce

Marriage trouble can be worked through, modified and potentially resolved with the help of a good therapist or relationship coach. Communication problems in a dysfunctional marriage are due to negative patterns of behavior. Thinking and believing that things will change on their own without outside intervention is magical thinking and isn't helpful. It's like the definition of insanity: Engaging in the same repetitive behavior and expecting a different outcome. A relationship coach provides new and modified coping strategies, communication skill building and the empathetic listening skills that couples need most. You see, there is a way to stop your divorce - and it starts with your willingness to try.

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