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Learn How to Be Sexy
and Win Back Your Ex

How to be sexy and win back your exIf your relationship has ended due to a lack of Mo Jo, there is still a way for you to learn how to be sexy and win back your ex. It will require some effort on your part, but if you're up for the challenge, you may find that the changes you make will benefit both of you in the end.

Learn How to be Sexy
and Win Back Your Ex

 Work that body. Win back your ex by working out! One of the biggest steps in learning how to be sexy to win your ex back is showing them the body they fell in love with. It's a common habit for both men and women, as we become more comfortable in our relationships, to eat more and work out less. If you were a size 4 when he met you, expecting him to be happy with you at a size 14 may be a bit much to ask for. As for you guys, if you had abs of steal and a butt she could bounce a quarter off of on the first date, your ever-growing beer belly may be too much to handle. So throw away the nachos and make that pesky trainer at the gym your new best friend.

 Dress like the person you want to be. If you want to learn how to be sexy, you'll have to also learn how to dress sexy. This doesn't mean that you'll need to spend your days in stilettos or the latest "metro sexual" shirts, but if you tend to spend your days in sweat pants and wife beaters, it may be time to sex it up a bit. If you want to win your ex back, give them a reason to notice you. Women, throw on that skirt that shows off your legs or a shirt that gives your cleavage that extra "Pow!" Men, put on that nice button-up you've been hiding in the closet, or buy some new jeans that hug your butt in all the right spots. The first step to being sexy is feeling sexy! So throw away those old comfy clothes and head to the mall - pronto.

 Make yourself over. If you want to learn how to be sexy to win back your ex, you'll have to first feel sexy in your own skin. Most upscale salons offer makeover packages for both men and women. These packages can include everything from a new haircut and color, to a nice spray-on tan or even the ever-so-popular "Brazilian wax." Certain salons even offer lessons in makeup or hair, which can make your learning how to be sexy that much easier and fun. You may find that the best way to win back your ex is by showing them a "you" they've never seen.

 Show your ex that you're open to trying something new. While learning how to be sexy to win back your ex, you'll need to also learn to open yourself up. There is nothing sexier than a person who's open to new ideas and adventures. You could try role-playing on a Friday night, making out in the movies on a Tuesday afternoon, or even something as simple as trying a new sexual position that you've never attempted together. Once your ex learns that you are no longer the inhibited, boring person they once thought you were, they'll be jumping at the opportunity to experience "the new you".

 Sexting can be fun! Some people are just too shy to put it all out there in person - and that's why we thank God for technology! The next time you're feeling frisky, shoot a quick naughty photo or video of yourself and text it to your ex. Even something as simple as a naughty written text can often do the trick. Either way, if you're trying to win back your ex, this spontaneous, mischievous behavior may be just what you need to win back your ex into your sex life.

 Be a naughty girl or boy. When learning how to be sexy, sometimes it helps to have some educational props to play with. Sex toys, videos, and even books are a sure way to spice up your sex life. They can also be the key to unlocking fantasies and pleasures you never even knew existed! For those too tame to visit their local adult store, drop us a line and we'll send you a few links to our favorite online adult stores. These sites offer everything from innocent lingerie, to videos, lubes, as well as toys to satisfy both men and women. The items are mailed in unmarked packages, and conveniently delivered to your door. Another great idea to help win back your ex is to invite him or her to browse the sites with you. Make a deal that for every item they pick out, you'll pick out something too.

 Give an "oral" presentation. One of the biggest complaints among couples that have been together for long periods of time is the lack of foreplay - oral foreplay in particular. The key to making oral foreplay amazing is learning to enjoy performing it. Try researching adult shops for flavored creams or lubes. Many places even offer a gel that helps decrease the gag reflex. The more you focus on oral being a sensual part of your sex life and not a job you have to perform, the better the chances that you'll learn to love it. And nothing is more of a turn-on than a partner who's eager to please.

 Be direct. While learning how to be sexy, know that it may all be as simple as raising your voice. If in the past you tended to lie in bed - lights out, covers over your head - passively waiting for your partner to take you, it's probably time for a change. To win back your ex, try putting the focus on you. Tell your partner what you like, how you like it, and where to go next to keep the pleasure going. Try being the first to initiate sex. If you have a feeling you've both been in the mood all day, don't wait until bedtime when you're both exhausted - get physical the first chance you get. If your ex stops by for a possible reconciliation talk, have the talk - but then have them - right there on the couch or kitchen table. If you want to start a roaring fire, you'll have to first create a spark, and nothing screams "sexy" like a person who knows what they want, and demands that they receive it.

 Confidence is the key to success. Regardless of what else you do, you will never win back your ex without confidence. You may learn how to be sexy... you may learn how to be exciting... and you may even learn how to show them a side of you that not even you knew you had. But if you never learn how to be confident, even if you do get them back, you'll never keep them. Ask any man or woman, and most will agree that regardless of the package, there is nothing sexier than a person who feels good about him or herself. If you walk like you're sexy... talk like you're sexy... kiss like you're sexy... and give off that overall vibe that you are sexy, it's unlikely that anyone will disagree with you. So believe in yourself and remember, if you don't think you can rock your partner's world, then how can you expect them to think you can?

For assistance in building your confidence, or further guidance to win back your ex, call our office and make an appointment - your initial consultation is free. Once you find yourself getting excited about how to be sexy, the last thing you'll want to do is take an unexpected U-Turn.

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